The Becoming Framework.
Three places to return to: what matters, what gets in the way, and what you will try next. Start with the stage that fits the work in front of you.
The Becoming Framework gives our conversations a practical structure. We can name the issue, look at the pattern around it, and choose something to try.
These stages are places to return to, not a test you pass. Sometimes trying a small action helps you understand what you want. Sometimes you need to stop and name the issue again.
Get clear
stage 01 of 3Name what matters to you.
Separate what you want from the expectations around it. Choose one situation and give it words you recognize.
you're in this stage if- You are weighing competing priorities
- You find it difficult to say what you want
Where it goes wrong.Reflection can become another way to wait. Choose one question to work with rather than trying to answer everything.
Describe one decision and name the values you want it to serve.
Get unstuck
stage 02 of 3Look closely at what keeps happening.
Choose a recent example of the pattern. Notice the situation, your response, and what happened next.
you're in this stage if- You keep putting off the same action
- Your plans change but the same obstacle returns
Where it goes wrong.A general label such as “unmotivated” can hide useful details. Describe what actually happened.
Write: “I keep ___ instead of ___.” Name the moment when a different response might be possible.
Get moving
stage 03 of 3Try a small action and return to the evidence.
Give your action a time. Record whether it happened. Use what you learn to decide what comes next.
you're in this stage if- You want a steadier practice
- You want to learn from both kept and missed commitments
Where it goes wrong.A plan that assumes every day will go well is difficult to keep. Give yourself a smaller fallback.
Choose one two-minute action, a time, a smaller version, and a date to review it.
Download the one-page framework
All three stages on a single printable page: the signs you're in each, where it goes wrong, and a practice for the week.
Not sure which stage you're actually in?
The Clarity Assessment tells you in four minutes, then points you to the practice made for your sharpest gap.